I was taking a few stabs in the dark about what a person on OKCupid meant by being interested in “food politics” since it seems like it could be a whole bunch of different things. I asked, giving a few ideas of what I think it meant. This person did view my profile so they did get the message but…
It’s fine. I get angry (as a feminist) when people say they’re feminists on OKC, because my brain instantly wants to ask:
The kind that hates me?
The kind that hated me before I got estrogen?
The kind that thinks women’s spaces should include trans men?
The kind that erases men when they’re raped?
The kind that erases women who rape?
The kind that sees survival coal-mining as okie-dokie but survival sex as the worst evil evar and yet has never proposed a Guaranteed Annual Income?
The kind that shrugs off men who die in the workplace, or go to jail longer for the same crime?
Or the cool kind, like me?
I try not to jump to conclusions and generally ask (when it comes to feminism) “what feminist writers/bloggers/artists/activists do you admire or align with the most?” Most recent incident involved somebody who is a second waver and looked up to some hardcore second wave writer. I pointed out the problems with second wave and got “well things are getting better.” She also got to my profile by searching for “ftm” so that gave me more reassurance of being in the mindset I was expecting.
I absolutely hate those XtY acronyms. There’s no magical gate you pass through in terms of transition that causes a trans man or woman to cease to be their CASAB, since we were never our CASAB, and I’ve got the horror stories to prove it.
PS: Yeah, I know, it’s the shorthand. I’m allowed to dislike it because of where it comes from and what it says, even when said with the best intentions.
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